Last year I decided to do a little experiment. I came across a study done at “Arizona’s New College of Interdisciplinary Arts and Sciences” held during a gender studies class. The professor instructed the boys to shave of their body hair, while the girls had to keep theirs for ten weeks. In the meantime they recorded their feelings and observations.
This study made me think about our society where shaving is considered as something that must be done by women. It got me thinking about the reasons why I shave and I discovered that I did it only for that reason. Shaving didn’t give me any kind of satisfaction; I would say that it was exactly the opposite. My sensitive skin didn’t get along with my razor at all. Shaving was a constant struggle for me and I decided that maybe it wasn’t worth the effort.
I decided to do the experiment and stopped shaving. Just like the students I recorded my feelings and observations about the process and would love to share them with you. So, here goes!
1: It felt weird at first, unnatural even.
Unnatural to have body hair, that feeling caught me off guard. I have never been one to give into peer pressure, which always made me kind of an outsider. But this was by far harder than I had anticipated. It took some time to get used to the feeling of having actual hair.
2: Many people believed I had lost my mind, others applauded my courage.
Luckily I had some supporters who had my back, I don’t know if I would have been able to do it without them.
3: Some people found what I was doing disgusting. And they insisted on making it known.
My body hair was impossible to hide, it’s thick and black. Needless to say, I got lots of comments on my choice to grow it out, ranging from close family to random strangers who all felt it was their task to police my choices. Apparently being a woman with body hair is still an exceptional thing. But disgusting, I never understood that. No one ever tells a man to shave of his leg hair or considers his armpit hair disgusting. An obvious double standard emerged.
4: There are almost no depictions of women with body hair and it is still considered a taboo subject.
This is possibly one of the reasons why I got bad reactions. Whenever women are depicted; whether it is in advertising, television or broader media, they are always smooth like a baby. No one ever portrays a woman who has body hair. Even commercials that attempt to sell razors show women shaving their already hairless legs. More realistic illustrations of women’s bodies are needed; I believe body hair should be a part of this. Maybe then, hair on women will become less of a taboo and walking around with hair could be seen as something natural and normal. One can only hope.
5: Dying my armpit hair pink, gave me so much confidence and really inspired me to keep going.
About half a year in, I chose to dye my armpit hair; I was having some trouble to keep at it and decided to try something radical. I chose bright pink because it symbolizes femininity and combining it with armpit hair created a beautiful contrast. I was totally in love with the result! All I wanted to do was show of my armpit hair. It gave me exactly the kind of impulse I was hoping for.
6: After a while I forgot I had body hair, it became a natural thing.
It was just part of me, nothing special. It didn’t make me feel ashamed any longer and I learned to accept it as a part of myself that I no longer felt the need to hide. It was my hair and I was proud of it
7: Growing out my hair made me feel more comfortable with my body; it made me more assertive and sure of myself.
I can now confidently say that I’m a beautiful, feminine woman who rocks her body hair. I’m not urging everyone to give this a try, it’s not for everybody and that’s totally fine. You should do whatever you feel comfortable with. Just know that beauty standards are just that, (unattainable) standards. You have the power to define your own standards and draw your own lines. Don’t let some standard define the decisions you make.
Dare to be authentically yourself, you won’t regret it.